Last year I had just had Hinalei and my mother and Nicola had arrived to help us out for a month. On our one year anniversary I was so tired and overwhelmed and probably didn't enjoy it as much because I really just wanted to be with my precious little girl. I remember we went to dinner and a movie, leaving Hinalei with her Nanny and Aunty, I think Joe and I hated every second being away from her that we left the movie early to drive home, almost ran up the stairs (randomly thinking the worst) to find her fast asleep and completely FINE.This year we saved for this weekend and guess what?? It was a wonderful week of celebration. Today Joseph and I celebrated our 2 year wedding anniversary. Actually we have had a weekend of celebration because it was Sunday today so we started on Friday night. Saturday was a pamper day for me and of course I loved every minute of it. However this week also gave me a really good chance to step back and see what I learned over the past 2 years. I know I have learned a lot about myself but more than that I have come to realize the importance of not only keeping your relationship alive but also recognize that BEST FRIEND that you first fell in love with.
For one of our many celebrations we watched "Valentines Day" and two things stuck out to me from that movie.
1. Marry your best friend. I know I did this because guess what Joe:
* knows what color dominates my wardrobe
* knows my favorite movie
* knows my favorite hymn
* knows what type of flower I love
* knows all of my life's favorite colors
* knows all of my dreams and goals
and for that I love him even more because we are best friends first and we can talk about anything!!!!
2. You can't chose to love only the good parts of your partner, you have to take the bad parts to. You can just give up because of the bad parts either, it is apart of them and of you (don't think you don't have any).
I really appreciated that because I think sometimes I spend way to much time focusing on the bad parts but still saying " I love you" when maybe I was saying "I love you when you are good." No! The actress Shirley Mac Laine went on to explain some other cool things but it made me realize that I need to STRIVE to love Joe MORE in his entirety, YES even his bad parts (because Heaven knows he loves all of mine).
p.s. I am not recommending Valentines Day because their are some other screwed up parts
SO to conclude>>>> I am so incredibly happy that I married Joseph-Hall Poasa Savaiinaea! He is my BEST FRIEND. He makes me laugh, smile, wipes away my tears, hugs my pain and loves me so so much!
